Think of a fire that you start while camping. Falling in love was the spark that started your fire, but if you do not know how to continue to add fuel to your love fire it will go out just like that campfire no matter how hot or big you get it. Most people do not really know what love is and many define love as a special feeling. True love is not a feeling but a decision to seek the welfare of the one who is the object of your love. When the Jews asked Jesus what was the most important command was, He said it was to love God and love one another.

John 13:34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”

So love is actually a command that we receive from Jesus. He loved us unselfishly and finally gave His life for us and He says that is the way we should love one another. Not always looking to be loved, but instead, we are to love one another unselfishly as He loved us. So how do we do that? You need to learn what your spouse’s love languages are.

There are five love languages that we talk about in our classes: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, Physical Touch. Once you know which love languages work best for your spouse, you need to try and use their love languages on them and not your own which is what most of us do. Another way to show love is to serve!