In every single place a wife is mentioned in the Bible, she is portrayed as a “helper”. In Genesis 2:18 it says: “The Lord God said it is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a HELPER suitable for him.” A “helper” is one perfectly matched to make a team. Note that both players of this team are actively involved with the task at hand.

Ephesians 5:22-24: “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.”

“Wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord” Many women have a problem with this idea of submitting, but this is something between them and God. Husbands cannot make their wives submit, but if they love their wives the way God tells them to they should ALWAYS be looking out for the welfare of their wife and be willing to give their lives for them if necessary.

Your job as a wife is to allow the man to assume his role the way God intended him to and you are to come along side as a helper. If you decide that you want to lead instead of follow you will be going against God’s plan for a happy marriage. We did not write the rules. If you disagree, you will have to take that up with the one who made the rule.

Please understand you are not to be a silent doormat or slave. 

If steps one through seven are being done correctly, it should never be an issue.